How do you know when enough is enough? [flat stomach] [anti depressants]
Im 53, but I am pretty curvy and most of my weight in my middle section. Ive never had a flat stomach and I am a high waist and have this weird dash between my waist and my love handles.
Weight to get very clear about my figure and I was up to 127 lbs and realized I needed something to do. I started to work out regularly and for three months (ABS work, weights and cardio). I am on and off by a gang of anti-depressants and I have become obssessed with my eating habits . with all that I only managed to shed 16 pounds since August. My body does not get watered down, as I feel like it should. I still look “squishy” and annoying when naked. In clothing, its clear I have lost weight, but I hate myself in the mirror. I keep telling myself, okay, well, a further ￡ 7 . but when I know that my weight loss goal and do not let it get out of hand? I do not know what to do. I just want to keep losing weight. But it does not come from one of the right places (middle part !), even though I worked so hard!
I just feel like Im against a wall and I hate my body. My husband is afraid to fatty foods and throws me every chance he gets, because he is afraid that I will no calories. What is not true, Ive just changed eating habits drastically. Well, thats all. Just wanted to know if others had advice for knowing when to stop or when you hit a certain point the direction to change. Thank you.
Reply:Hey there Epiphany,
I want to start by saying that your problem is definitely not a unique issue, there are many people in the same boat.
There's a few points I want to make:
"with all of that I have only managed to shed 16 lbs since August" – congratualtions, you have taken action in the right direction and is to be commended. Many more people out there are going the other way. Your work is an inspiration more than you know.
"I keep telling myself, okay, 7 more lbs should be good… but when do I know I have reached my weight loss goal and not let it get out of control??" – It appears to me as though you started out with the broad idea of "losing weight". But have a look at that goal – it is a VERB. And as long as you are chasing a goal that is a verb, you are going to be running for a long time because there is no end point. Instead focus on a number, things you CAN control. You're also is a funny place because the more success you have, the more you are going to crave it also – be CAREFUL to use this as motivation to see you as HALF-FULL as opposed to HALF-EMPTY.
"I just don't know what to do. I just want to keep losing weight." – Allow yourself the luxury always of definition. Just here you've contradticted yourself!! I'm not saying this to get on your back but rather to help you see that your intention is unimportant, your definition is far more important.
OK, then, as for my suggestions, I want you to understand a few things.
"I just feel like I hit a wall and I hate my body" – This is a very powerful and fueling statement, it can lead you one of two ways – to kill yourself or to drive you even further and harder (and moreso SMARTER) towards achieving your goal. Understand that this is a good thought to have AT THIS TIME, and that it is going to help propell you to more gains.
In terms of exercise, I'd recommend that you become more closely aware of your regime. At a point in time after three to six months pof consistent exercise, it will be time to change up the tempo and intensity of things. Every 5th week, change your program completely and wind up the intensity dramatically for just the 5th week.
In closing, you're essentially going to view yourself within your definition of truth. Right now, that might be that you're fat and "hate yourself", however, please see that it also works the other way.
The truth of the matter is that you are taking steps to what has been PROVED to work for your goals and that is unshakable – have faith in that and faith in your ability to get there, it will happen.
